Women Dogging Themselves

A Reader’s Question: 

            My girlfriend and I have been going back and forth on a debate.   She says if you’re fast with the “ass”, then that keeps your “new man” from going somewhere else (if you knew her age you would scream!  Lol!)

            I have a different opinion.  I feel you should stimulate the “mind”, as well as the “behind”.  By this I mean sex can wait until you get to know that person.  Ultimately, that man will respect you more in the end.

            I won’t lie.  I’ve had “jump offs” in the past.  But on the real, if you are truly feeling a person, I just think it’s best to get to know the mental, before getting to the physical.  Ok Dedan. Bring it.  What do you think?

My Advice:

            Hey what’s up?  It’s great to get a question from another one of my favorite readers.

            You need to talk to your friend because she’s trippin’ if she thinks that giving it up to a man quickly, is going to keep him around.  That’s actually the fastest way for him to move onto his next conquest.

            Over the years I’ve given this same advice many times, but here it is again for anyone who may have missed it.  When a man meets a woman, he immediately puts her into one of two categories: wifey potential or jump off.  The woman determines how the man classifies her.  No man is going to respect a woman who doesn’t respect herself.  If a woman gives it up easily, then what the heck makes you think the guy is going to seriously consider bringing that woman home to meet his mom?  In the back of his mind, he’s going to be wondering how many other guys hit it that quickly.

            Now, if the woman presents herself in a respectful way, then the guy has no choice but to respect her.  If sex is all he’s after, and he sees that he’s not going to get it quickly, then he’ll move on to someone else.  If he sticks around, that’s proof that he’s truly interested in you.

            A woman giving it up too soon just makes it easier for men to move onto the next woman, who is just as easy.  The unfortunate thing is that many women wonder why they get dogged. The fact of the matter is that men don’t dog women.  Women dog themselves.

            Hopefully, I’ve shed some light on this subject for you.

Dedan Tolbert

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